Divorce Magazine, shares some tips about how to manage your anger through your divorce, so that you don’t lash out, but rather, learn how to “tame” your anger:
1. Write it out where only you will read it.
2. Shout it out where only you will hear it.
3. Talk it out with a friend, therapist or support group.
4. Take responsibility for your part in the breakup.
5. Identify what triggers your anger.
6. Think before you respond.
7. Keep children out of the conflict.
8. Hold conflicts at a moderate level.
9. Choose your battles carefully – let the small stuff go.
10. Express how you feel rather tossing out accusations.
11. Acknowledge how sad you are.
12. Forgive, let go, move on.
Triggers are important to identify. A “trigger” or “hot button” is something that may “set you off” about a situation or a person. What is it about the divorce, itself, that makes you the angriest? If you can pinpoint a trigger, then you can hopefully work through your anger much quicker.
“For every minute you remain angry, you give up sixty seconds of peace of mind.” - Ralph Waldo Emerson
