There are lots of ways to view divorce, but one of the most positive ways may be to view divorce as a gateway to newly found freedom.
You definitely have the freedom to choose how to view the divorce experience. You can view your newly found freedom as a fresh start – or you can choose to view it as a the end of everything good in your life.
Divorce may possibly be the shortest and most direct path to a fresh start. It’s very possible that for the first time in your life, you are faced with limitless possibilities. Your divorce may have opened your eyes to all of the constraints your marriage and former life was imposing upon you. Maybe, just maybe – you were willing to live within those constraints for the sake of your marriage – but now, there is freedom and opportunity all around you!
From Divorce Recovery 101,
Now that you are single again, you have gained a freedom you possibly never had before, especially if you went directly from family to marriage.
- A freedom to be miserable, if that’s what you chose.
- A freedom to make your own choice, to date who you want, when you want, and where you want.
This new-found freedom is pretty heady stuff. You may have suddenly become aware that your future is your own choosing.
The happiest people in prison are lifers. They know what’s ahead.
- Slaves that were suddenly freed were often at a complete loss, and in a state of shock.
- What would become of them? They had never had to make a decision.
- Now you feel you too have been cast adrift, not knowing where you are going or what lies in store for you.
You may feel shell shocked and ambused by your divorce – or maybe your divorce was your first choice towards freedom. No matter what the circumstances, recognize that the only thing over which you have total control is your attitude. You can choose to view this life event in any way you wish, but let me suggest that you try to adopt an attitude of, “This is the first day of the rest of my life.”
You are free!
- Free to be happy
- Free to be miserable
- Free to be scared
Divorce Recovery Advice Tip #4 is to relish your freedom.
