Dating someone new is not easy for anyone. Expectations can be high, and it’s very easy to make a wrong move. Knowing what not to do on your earliest dates can help you to avoid future problems. Here is one practicing psychologist’s reminders of what not to do on a date.
1. Don’t assume your date is exclusive with you. If you’ve never talked about it, you probably should.
2. Don’t be afraid of silence. Occasional silences allow a conversation to feel natural and unforced.
3. Don’t make sex the objective. Good reasons for going slowly into sexual activity include:
• reducing the risk of sexually transmitted diseases;
• avoiding the awkwardness of intimacy with a total stranger;
• having sex to look forward to.
If and when sex is right, it will happen – there’s no advantage in rushing.
4. Don’t date beyond your budget.
It doesn’t impress your date if, in the long run, you have to make an embarrassing confession. A wide
disparity in income calls for frank discussion early on. If your date spends a lot on you, reciprocating
with a home-cooked meal, a hand-made gift, or assistance with a task needing to be taken care of will
even the tally.
5. Don’t get too self-conscious.
The media focus on youth and fitness these days can make anyone feel insecure and unattractive.
Look your best, and then forget about it. Instead of worrying what your date thinks of you, focus
on what you think of your date.
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