Comments on: Building a New Life After Divorce: A Big Question to be Answered ……How do I get over my anger about divorce?

By: Admin

Admin — Tue, 08 May 2012 14:20:15 +0000

This is “general” advice and as usual – it doesn’t apply in every situation. The level at which you share with others – whether they be children or co-workers – depends upon so many factors such as the maturity of the individuals and their situation.

Thanks for sharing James.

By: Juana Ayala

Juana Ayala — Sun, 12 Jun 2011 23:50:21 +0000

my first daughter finished high school and I have three more kids and I never wanted to bring anyone around them cause I didnt want anyone to hurt them but there dad did get someone Did I do wrong

By: June

June — Thu, 02 Jun 2011 00:36:59 +0000

After 25 years in a relationship, the ending, was swift as it was sudden…I am able to relate to the uncontrollable rage and anger, the pain that threatens your sanity and the feeling that all you thought you believed in was now a lie….councelling, three years of it, did help, although it was a struggle. Having to work through a belief system that refused to acknowledge “realities” of the relationship that just ended….was frustrating..and yet, after some time, a few changes began to occur. To anyone facing the death of a marriage, to those who would have done “anything” to make it work, where the choice of divorce was not mutual, one day at a time, and have an outlet for the rage, do not fear the fallout, cause it’ll come in one form or another, reach out for what you need…taking care of yourself, your needs, and the storm of emotions is number one….no one can ‘know’ how you feel, unless they are you, they can not understand if you do not let them in…but with caution, divorce tends to bring out the “lookie loos” who just want the “rag-mag” story, another reason why a councellor is much better… find your mantra…focus on what you do have control over, and know, this… “The farther you get from “what was” – the closer you get to “what is”.”
Its a terribly bumpy road, and if my journey is any indication, you never really heal, but you do learn to live in the world you now find yourself….don’t let someone elses choices take all of you….regardless of where you are, you are responsible for the steps you must take alone….build from it, don’t be buried by it…..

By: James

James — Thu, 12 May 2011 07:22:45 +0000

A worthy article . Im not sure about ‘One of the most important things as you go through the process is to put on a stable face for your children (no matter their age) and for your colleagues at work. ‘. Whilst we want to ‘shield’ our children as much as possible during a relationship breakdown , it can be helpful, if handled ‘delicately’ to share ,at least at some level , how we are really feeling -not so as to ‘load our emotions’ onto our children, but at least show our children its ok to ‘share’what we are feeling

Kind Regards

James