Recovering from divorce is an ongoing process – and one of the most difficult but essential tasks in your recovery from divorce is to learn to overcome negative thinking.
Divorce is an inherently “negative” process. Anyone who says any different has obviously never been through a divorce – either their own or someone close to them.
While it’s easy to say “You need to get out from under negative thinking as part of your divorce recovery process,” it’s a bit harder to actually do than say. I’ve shared several Techniques to Control Negative Thinking, but just like smoking – sometimes negative thinking as a part of divorce recovery is a hard habit to break.
With that in mind, here’s another divorce recovery strategy is use a stinging reminder to stop negative thoughts: wearing an elastic hair band on your wrist.
Divorce Recovery Advice: Stop the Pain of Negative Thinking in a Snap
In the process of your recovery from divorce, when a negative thought crops up, and give that band around your write a little snap. I know that sounds punishing, but many of my clients have found that it works for them. Talk about being aware of what events and moods set your thoughts spiraling into the negative zone; this method will have you recognizing that route early-on and heading it off in order to prevent that stinging rebuke.
Now, please don’t cause yourself real pain; just a little sting to remind you that these negative thoughts need to be replaced with something positive and motivating.
The point is no matter what strategy you choose, you are re-training your brain to perceive and react differently to negative thought-triggering situations. And sometimes, it takes a very firm approach to get the result you want.
Getting over negative thinking is an essential part of the divorce recovery process. If you’re having trouble breaking the “negative thinking” habit – try the elastic band around your wrist technique.
Negative thinking is a hard habit to break. You may need to combine this technique with the other techniques I’ve shared to beat negative thinking once and for all!
 This is a guest post by Judy Smith. Judy specializes in helping women create a new life after divorce. She uses experience and skills acquired over a lifetime to help divorced people transform their lives. Get the personalized help you need by joining her Divorce Coaching Club.
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