If divorce is like a head on automobile collision, then divorce recovery is a lot like recovering from the serious physical injuries sustained in that car crash.
Unfortunately, sometimes it’s easier to heal broken bodies than it is to heal the broken hearts and spirits that happen during the divorce process.
Divorce Recovery: Healing after Divorce
One of the really cool things about being human is that there are lots of other humans out there. While it may seem that you’re the ONLY one to be going through what you’re going through at the moment – chances are that there is someone else, somewhere else who is either going through or has gone through a similar process. Thanks to the internet, you can often find these other humans – people who have suffered the pain and betrayal of divorce and found healing after divorce.
One of the most frequently asked questions about divorce recovery is “How Long?”
It’s natural to want to know how long will it take until you’ve achieved the state described by Linda Saxon Nix in her webpage on My Divorce Recovery:
“I have moved on, and I have found a new and good life. I have found that my first marriage would never have given me the happy, fulfilling life that I now have. We have to accept what has happened, and then move on to another life that holds more for us.”
These words were written by a woman who was married for 28 years and who desperately wanted to save her marriage. If she can achieve healing after divorce – you can too!
How long does divorce recovery take?
According to Jerald Young of Smooth Divorce Recovery:
Divorce recovery takes time. This is a fact of divorce. The real question is, “How long must I endure the upset and pain of adjusting to my divorce?” While specific time predictions are not possible, we can make choices that reduce recovery time from several years to a few months.
Unfortunately, divorce recovery isn’t an effortless process. Achieving healing after divorce often requires a significant shift in your thinking process. Adam Weston writes in his post Great Divorce Advice | Positive Thinking:
Put aside the thought process of helplessly wishing for things that are not in your possession, and concentrate on what you have NOW. You did not have these things before, but you do now, be thankful for that. This mindset, should you chose to focus on it, will change your outlook on so many things. Material things will become less important and joyous thing will materialize in your life experience. It has to be this way, it IS this way.
Keeping a journal through your divorce is an exellent way to document for yourself the process of your own divorce recovery. If you journal online with a blog, then your journal can serve as inspiration for others as well.
