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divorce

Structure your own Divorce Forum: Reflect on Your Inner Dialogue

August 19, 2009

It is my hope that over the past week, you’ve been listening closely to the scripts you’re using in your head, paying special attention to your word choices and the types of beliefs you have created through them.
Have you noticed any patterns? Is there anything in those patterns that could be affecting how you are [...]

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Good Divorce Advice: Be Careful on the Internet

August 18, 2009

The following ‘warning’ is information offered by a prominent law firm:
“Social networking sites can raise a wide range of problems for people working through divorce. For some people, the best solution is to simply avoid these sites entirely. You can deactivate your accounts and return once the terms of your divorce have been finalized.
However, for [...]

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Building a New Life After Divorce: A Big Question to be Answered ……How do I get over my anger about divorce?

August 17, 2009

This question was put to two psychologists who shared their response with the San Luis Obispo Tribune.
Q:  My wife and I have separated after 25 years of marriage. She keeps stressing that she wants an amicable divorce, yet I just can’t do that. I can’t get past the anger, resentment, or hatred for her for [...]

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Dealing with Other’s Anger

August 12, 2009

Divorce Magazine, also offers us some inside tips about how to deal with the other party’s anger:
1. Defuse anger by listening.
2. Identify where you can help.
3. Walk away or end the call if you can’t handle the anger.
4. Limit what you’ll take and how you’ll be treated.
5. Boost self-esteem through assertiveness training.
6. Deal with each [...]

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Managing Your Anger Through Divorce

August 11, 2009

Divorce Magazine, shares some tips about how to manage your anger through your divorce, so that you don’t lash out, but rather, learn how to “tame” your anger:
1. Write it out where only you will read it.
2. Shout it out where only you will hear it.
3. Talk it out with a friend, therapist or support [...]

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Divorce Recovery Advice: Monitor Thinking

August 10, 2009

What you think is what you feel
How are you feeling today?  Unless you are suffering from seasonal allergies, a cold virus or a sprained ankle, chances are, you’re feeling the way you’re thinking.
This means, you may be affecting how you feel overall by what’s playing inside of your head. For example, let’s say you are [...]

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Divorce Recovery Advice: Life After Divorce

August 7, 2009

Life After Divorce – Putting in perspective
Author, Steve Cason, who has written many a caustic comment about divorce (He’s undergone four divorces himself!) ends his latest book (on divorce recovery for men) with some uplifting words.   ”It’s a cliche, but it’s true,” said Cason. “Every dark cloud has a silver lining, and divorce is no [...]

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