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abandonment and divorce recovery

Building a New Life After Divorce: A Big Question to be Answered ……How do I get over my anger about divorce?

August 17, 2009

This question was put to two psychologists who shared their response with the San Luis Obispo Tribune.
Q:  My wife and I have separated after 25 years of marriage. She keeps stressing that she wants an amicable divorce, yet I just can’t do that. I can’t get past the anger, resentment, or hatred for her for [...]

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Divorce Recovery Advice: Monitor Thinking

August 10, 2009

What you think is what you feel
How are you feeling today?  Unless you are suffering from seasonal allergies, a cold virus or a sprained ankle, chances are, you’re feeling the way you’re thinking.
This means, you may be affecting how you feel overall by what’s playing inside of your head. For example, let’s say you are [...]

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Divorce Recovery: Everyone, Everywhere Learns That You Have to Make It Happen

July 31, 2009

Life after divorce can be so emotionally overwhelming, it naturally leaves us thinking only of the singularity of the event.  It is hard for us to put this debilitating phenomenon into any kind of perspective.
I ask you to try and take into consideration the fact that you are not alone.  Divorce is everywhere. Divorce takes [...]

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Divorce Recovery Advice: Loss of Self-Esteem

July 15, 2009

As a personal coach for divorced women, I know how valuable divorce support can be. This excerpt from The Dancing Doc confirms this notion …………
One of the greatest deterrents to being able to ‘face the music’ of divorce is the loss of self-esteem. The person who has lost identity in a non-supportive marriage, or who [...]

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Divorce Recovery Advice: Fix Your Anger and Grief

January 25, 2009

We know there’s no quick fix to anger and grief, but there are steps toward a more satisfying life that you can choose to take. The key word here is Choice.
Choosing happiness
Getting from divorce, the bottom step – to happiness, the pinnacle of the climb, starts with your determination to not think like a victim.  [...]

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Divorce Recovery Advice for Divorced Women: Holiday Edition

December 5, 2008

Three Tips for Keeping your Sanity & Poise when interacting with your Ex during the Most Wonderful Time of the Year
©2008 Debra Gordy. All Rights Reserved.

I remember it well – my first Christmas after my divorce from my children’s dad. I dreaded it coming.
Not only were my two young daughters going to be with their [...]

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Divorce Recovery Advice: Holiday Edition

November 15, 2008

Recovering from divorce is very similar to grieving the loss of a loved one.  Ask anyone who has lost a loved one and they will tell you that the “first” holiday, anniversary, or birthday after the loss is always a time of sadness.  This is probably because these milestone events are often a time when [...]

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